I need some serious advice regarding my friends.

"404 Name Not Found" (404namenotfound) 08/16/2013 at 22:29 • Filed to: None

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I've been here 5-6 years now and I know that people hate when personal stuff is posted on Oppo. But I need some serious advice right now. I met a girl at event in the afternoon and we vibed on a whole different level than I have ever done with anyone. I asked her if she wanted to go to the club at an event that I was organizing with a friend that night. She said yes and we went to the club. When I get there, my friend with whom I was organizing the event with starts hitting hard on the girl. The girl is trying to brush him off too. I had a lot of shit to do because I was organizing the event, but I tried to be with her the whole time. The next morning I get a barrage of texts from the guyfriend, who by the way was plastered (we had an open bar). My so called friend says that he really liked my ladyfriend and I was cockblocking him. My ladyfriend also sent him texts saying that he was a creep and that he needed to layoff. My guyfriend texts me that I told her to say that shit, when I did not.

I also got a shitload of threats from him as well. I know that he won't hurt me, but there is a possibility that he'll get others to intimidate me. I wasn't in the wrong was I? He was the douche in this situation. There is a really good possibility that I will never talk to him again. And yes I did find him as a friend, he had helped my in situations. We spend like 5 hours at Panera Bread talking the next day. She wanted to get dinner at night, but I had work (damn work). I think she likes me. lol. Thanks for listening.

Tom McParland > 404 Name Not Found 08/16/2013 at 22:33

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If your "friend" is acting like that, he is not your friend. If you have to work with him again, play it cool but keep your distance. If you don't have to see him again, just blow him off and ignore all interaction. I does not seem like you did anything wrong, hopefully good things will develop with this lady-friend. :)

Life and Times of Magoo: The People's Champ > 404 Name Not Found 08/16/2013 at 22:34

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My immediate response:

Glorious pic

Your former friend is clearly a selfish dick nugget

Make sure you get to that dinner soon

Tom McParland > 404 Name Not Found 08/16/2013 at 22:37

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Oh...and don't worry about asking for personal advice here. Most of us have all been in similar situations and want to help out. As long as you provide the necessary car-porn as you have done, everything will be cool. :)

bourgeoisie > 404 Name Not Found 08/16/2013 at 22:37

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You already know the answer to your question, which is that you need to find new friends while pursuing the lady friend for as long as she'll have you.

Also, for all their mythical glory, open bars are rarely a good idea.

404 Name Not Found > Tom McParland 08/16/2013 at 22:46

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Yeah mostly I would see him once in a while, but not often. I'm pretty sure that I didn't do anything wrong. Thanks for all your advice Automach. It's tough when you lose a friend for all the wrong reasons.

Nighthawkwill7, Hoon Depot Manager > 404 Name Not Found 08/16/2013 at 22:46

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Dinner ASAP

404 Name Not Found > Tom McParland 08/16/2013 at 22:47

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Like I said, it's tough. But as always car-porn to satisfy the Oppo-Gods. Thanks again.

Blunion05 drives a pink S2000 (USER WAS BANNED FOR THIS POST) > 404 Name Not Found 08/16/2013 at 22:47

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Ditch your 'friend.' Let us be your friends instead. :)

404 Name Not Found > bourgeoisie 08/16/2013 at 22:48

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That's what I thought. It's just tough losing a friend for these reasons. Now I know that open bars are a bad idea. Thanks dude for helping.

404 Name Not Found > Life and Times of Magoo: The People's Champ 08/16/2013 at 22:48

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Hahaha my pleasure. Thank you and thank you.

404 Name Not Found > Blunion05 drives a pink S2000 (USER WAS BANNED FOR THIS POST) 08/16/2013 at 22:49

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Hey only you can have the Ferrari for a few hours okay?

404 Name Not Found > Nighthawkwill7, Hoon Depot Manager 08/16/2013 at 22:50

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If you can arrange the aforementioned vehicle in the porn above. Then yes and then some.

Nighthawkwill7, Hoon Depot Manager > 404 Name Not Found 08/16/2013 at 22:52

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Btw, 007 is here to handle your "friend". Forgot to clarify.

404 Name Not Found > Nighthawkwill7, Hoon Depot Manager 08/16/2013 at 22:53

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Nah i'd go to dinner with 007.

PatBateman > Nighthawkwill7, Hoon Depot Manager 08/16/2013 at 22:54

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And here I thought you were just making him go to dinner at gun point.

Nighthawkwill7, Hoon Depot Manager > 404 Name Not Found 08/16/2013 at 22:55

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He graciously accepts and would also let you take out the lady in the Aston.

Back on topic, what kind of threats did the guy make?

Kickplate > 404 Name Not Found 08/16/2013 at 22:56

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Not sure how old you are. But you should realize that over time, you'll make new friends, and others will have to move "outside the circle" for one reason or another. For someone to cause such high school drama, then sober up and continue to behave like a moron the next day is absolutely not okay. Let's just say, if what you say happened is accurate, then you may just want to move him outside the circle and hang out with better quality people who are more chill. Some friends are more trouble than they're worth.

bourgeoisie > 404 Name Not Found 08/16/2013 at 22:56

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People in general are assholes, sadly friends aren't immune. I've recently given my social circle quite a haircut and while it is disappointing, it's also liberating. Best of luck, you deserve better friends.

PatBateman > 404 Name Not Found 08/16/2013 at 22:57

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What everyone else said.

"Bros before hoes" only goes so far. If any mutual friends try to intimidate you, just tell them the true story. If they have any brains, they'll see it your way. If not, tell them to bring a girl by his place and see for themselves.

MountainCommand > 404 Name Not Found 08/16/2013 at 23:13

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From what i read, you are in no way in the wrong. Your friend seems to be a little ignorant to all details of the situation. Though, i dont know how much alcohol influenced this situation on his end. So bear that in mind.

If he is truly your friend, he will get over it. And should realize that he (from the sound of it) intruded on ground that did not belong to him (so to speak). If he doesnt make amends, then, well, you may have a girl by your side at that point.

Like the others are saying, go for that dinner with her!

Victorious Secret > 404 Name Not Found 08/16/2013 at 23:18

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French kiss your lady friend in front of your so called guy friend.

See if the message gets through his head then.

Sorry, but your friend is a pompous douchebag and you should cut him out of your life.

I've had situations where I've lost contact with long time friends for a variety of reasons and it sucks, and we did get back in contact but only after the dirty laundry was aired and shit was settled. Seeing as how you did nothing wrong, just walk away.

404 Name Not Found > PatBateman 08/16/2013 at 23:31

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Thankfully most of his friends are actually friends of mine too and they respect me. I doubt that they would do anything.

404 Name Not Found > Victorious Secret 08/16/2013 at 23:33

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I wish I could kiss her. I don't know if we're on that level yet haha. I have already cut ties with that friend. I have already mentally forgotten about him too. Thanks for the advice VS.

404 Name Not Found > bourgeoisie 08/16/2013 at 23:33

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Ahh I like that term, "social haircut". I need to to that asap. Thanks again.

404 Name Not Found > Kickplate 08/16/2013 at 23:34

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Yeah it's just tough losing a friend. But I'm in college and I think that finding new friends shouldn't be too hard. Thanks bigfatelephant.

404 Name Not Found > MountainCommand 08/16/2013 at 23:35

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Oh god I want to go to dinner so bad with her!!! Thanks for the advice MoutainCommand.

Victorious Secret > 404 Name Not Found 08/16/2013 at 23:36

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You haven't frenched her?

But in all honesty, some people just end up getting cut. The circumstances of it can also be amusing and completely weird.

Blunion05 drives a pink S2000 (USER WAS BANNED FOR THIS POST) > 404 Name Not Found 08/16/2013 at 23:48

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404 Name Not Found > Victorious Secret 08/16/2013 at 23:51

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I don't know if you're being serious or not. Let's see how things go.

Blunion05 drives a pink S2000 (USER WAS BANNED FOR THIS POST) > 404 Name Not Found 08/16/2013 at 23:54

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Also, here's a GIF for you of an F12 Berlinetta.

You may want to open it in full size.

greenagain > 404 Name Not Found 08/16/2013 at 23:57

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Don't worry about him, he'll get loaded again tonight, and chase after some other piece.
Make sure you have unprotected sex, like all yer buddies. It'll be OK.

Uh, I'm kidding.

Dunnik > 404 Name Not Found 08/17/2013 at 00:38

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"With friends like that, who needs enemies?"

a cat named scruffy- live from Caldor > 404 Name Not Found 08/17/2013 at 01:36

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You'd better consider demoting that "friend" to acquaintance. He's broken your trust but maybe you can give him a chance to earn it back if you've been friends for a long time and think he deserves another chance, if not keep it moving, it's easy to make friends who aren't selfish in college.

BiTurbo228 - Dr Frankenstein of Spitfires > 404 Name Not Found 08/17/2013 at 04:44

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Well that situation sucks and is kickass in equal measure.

Sounds like the guy is a bit of a prick. If he really does get people to intimidate you, or continues threatening you over such a minor thing then I'd certainly re-evaluate his worth as a friend.

If you guys get over it, then no harm done (but I'd be pretty damn firm that you are not ok with him threatening you).

MTL Engineer in Training > 404 Name Not Found 08/21/2013 at 19:57

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First off make time her, you don't want to lose any oppertunites. Also, take a break from your friend and examine the friendship, and see if his relationship with you should be changed. Most importantly, don't let it effect your education or work! This year I had a falling out with a close friend (a girl), and it hurt me academically. Initially, I was interested in dating her, and felt hurt when she started making out with a guy at a party. After spending time apart, I realised that in my case, it was better of having her as my attractive friend then as my girlfriend. Anyway, hope it works out!